Until you are on the receiving end, you probably have no idea how difficult it can be to “Just relax” when someone want to put something up your bum. Even more so when that something is a cock or a strap on dildo (which is what I’ll talk about here).
It’s also very difficult to willingly put yourself into a position that gives your wife access to your ass. I’m a guy and it was and is difficult for me to take what I’ve known only to be the female position – lying on my back with my legs spread apart and in the air or kneeling in doggy position waiting for my wife to come up behind me with a dildo strapped to her crotch.
Part of what makes it so difficult is how sexy and feminine I find these positions – at least when I see my wife in these positions. So for me to get into these positions is difficult, mentally.
Back to relaxing. When your mental perceptions are being challenged; when you are in a position you are almost uncomfortable being in and your wife is approaching with a rubber dildo strapped to her, ready to fuck your ass, it’s not easy to relax. Despite wanting to let my wife fuck my ass, there is the paradox of not really wanting to “submit”.
Giving up control, relaxing, being the one to be penetrated is hard to do. It requires a confidence in yourself and huge trust in your wife.
If you can, though, the pleasure is amazing. Getting ass fucked by your wife while she jacks you off, your cock and balls covered in lube – the sensations are overwhelming.